大揭秘：人们为什么喜欢八卦第八号当铺2012-08-13阅读145评论2条[网页划词已启用]本文属阅读资料收藏打印单词测试______Gossipisnotonlysomethingwomenareadeptat.不止女人会八卦。Itissomethingthatyoufindrepleteintheworkcircuitaswell.Yes,that’sright–menareknowntogossiptoo!But,whyisitthatpeoplegossipatall?Readontofindout.你会发现工作场所也到处都是八卦。没错，事实就是：男人也很八卦！可是，人们到底为什么要八卦呢？继续往下读吧。1.MundaneLives生活无聊Ifpeoplefeelthattheirownlivesareboringandlackanyformofspice,theytendtoattackthelivesofothers.Findingjuicytit-bitstotalkaboutfromotherpeople’slives,canhelpsomederiveentertainmentandexcitementthattheirownliveslack.如果人们感到生活无聊缺乐子，就会瞄上别人的生活。从别人的生活中发掘有意思的谈资能弥补他们自身生活的寡淡无趣。2.Insensitivity精神麻木Beingunawareofthehurtandangstback-bitingmaycause,peopletendtotalkfreelyaboutothersandtheirflaws.Thisshowsacompletelackofsensitivityandapathy.Forthesakeofsmalltalkorshort-livedamusement,somepeoplesimplydonotcareaboutthereputationofothers.对伤痛和背后嚼舌的烦恼无知无觉的人，也会随意谈论他人及他人的缺点。这也暴露了其为人的麻木冷淡。有些人只求片刻闲言碎语或开心，就一点也不顾及他人的颜面。3.Jealousy嫉妒Whileboredommaybeacauseofgossip,jealousycouldalsobealesserknownevilthatleadstoit.Yes,ifsomeoneisenviousofthecaryouown,orthelifestyleyoulead,theymayresorttotalkingillaboutyou,behindyourback.除了无聊会滋生八卦，嫉妒也是另一大恶因。的确，要是有人嫉妒你的车或你的生活方式，他们可能就会在背后诋毁你。4.ToPutOthersDown一争高下Thishappensespeciallyintheworkplace.Yes,thisisactuallysomethingalotofpeopledo.Itisunethicalandunprofessional,buttoscorebrowniepointswiththeboss,somemortalsresorttoloosetalkandgossipabouttheircolleagueswhoaredoingwellandmayappeartobebetterworkersthanthem.这种情况在工作场合尤为多见。而且实际上很多人都这么做。虽然不道德不光彩，但为了在上司面前表现好，有些“死对头”还真会不积口德地诋毁优秀同事，然后自己冠冕堂皇显得更为能干。Beingawareofgossip-mongersandtheeffectoftheircasualbehaviourcanhelpyoukeepyourimageintact.Moreover,onceyouknowaboutthem,youwillneedtolearnhowtosteerclearofthemandnotgetaffectedbywhattheysay.Hereishowyoucandoit:了解喜欢八卦的人和他们言谈随意的原因，能帮助你维护自身形象。而且一旦你了解他们，就会努力摆脱他们，不让自己被他们的闲言碎语所左右。下面就告诉你该怎么做：1.Ignore直接忽略Ignoranceisbliss,itissaid.Practicingitinthiscaseisthebestthingtodo.Payingheedtothegossipandtotheperpetratorsofthesamewillonlyfueltheircallousness.So,avoidgivingitanymorethoughtthanitdeserves.俗话说，眼不见耳不闻心不烦。被人八卦时最好多多练习这一条。你要是在意那些八卦、生嚼舌人的气，反倒让他们更来劲儿。所以，别太介意八卦，直接忽略吧。2.ActNormal一切如常Goaboutyourbusinessasusual.Dowhatyouaregoodat,somethingthatmaybethereasonthegossipstartedinthefirstplace.Continuetobeonyournormalbehaviour.Itwillnotonlyaffectyouless,itwillalsoirritatethegossip-monger(s)andgivethemfewerreasonstocontinuewiththeirnonsense.一如既往管好自己的事吧。做自己擅长的事情，这些事情说不定就是八卦的导火线呢。继续该干啥就干啥，你不仅不为所惑，还能打击造谣的人，让他/她自己都觉得自讨无趣。3.Confront勇敢面对Ifyoufeelthatthetalksaregettingalittletoomuchandyourinter-personalrelationsaregettingaffected,confrontthepersonbehindthewholething.Tellhimclearlythattheyshouldnotinterfereinyourlifeandyoushalltakestrictactionagainstthemiftheycontinuetodoso.如果你觉得闲言碎语有些过分，影响到了你的人际关系，那就勇敢直面背后煽风点火的人吧。直接清楚挑明：他们没权利干扰你的生活，如果还这么放肆，你也不是吃素的。4.TakeLegalAction采取法律措施Ifconfrontationdoesnothingtostopthem,reportthemisconducttotheauthoritiesattheworkplace,orconsultalegalprofessionalifyoufeelitneedstobedealtwithmoreseriously.如果挑明一切还不足以撇清流言，你可以向公司权威阶层汇报此类恶行。要是你想更为严肃地对待此事，也可以咨询专业法律顾问。Gossiphasbecomeapartofoursocietyandmanypeoplecannotlivewithoutit.However,itremainstolerableuntilitdoesnotstartaffectinganyonepersonally.Themomentitdoes,youneedtoadheretothesuggestionsabovetocurbtheeffects.八卦已成为我们社会的一部分，很多人离了八卦还真适应不了。只要不对他人造成影响，八卦也还可以容忍。一旦八卦四起，你有必要参考以上建议遏止不良后果。