约会秘籍目录引言..............................................1第一部分“吸引”到底是什么.......................9第一章“吸引”无法抗拒..........................10取悦女人不是魔术...............................................................11“吸引力的威力”...............................................................13“吸引力是自私的”.............................................................15男人、女人和吸引力...........................................................15让你换换脑筋的练习...........................................................22来自邮箱的一封信...............................................................24“礼貌谦恭”损害你的魅力...................................................27过滤器、放大器...................................................................27女人使用“暗示”来表白.....................................................29那么，女人究竟想你如何交流呢.......................................30第二章为“改变”所做的准备......................32常见误解的核心...................................................................32女人不是宇宙的中心...........................................................32秘密借口…….......................................................................34你所想当然的往往是无效的...............................................352好男人的“真我”是“真正的被操纵”.............................37对付女人的假面具...............................................................40女人被吸引的模式，与男性相同.......................................41难以捕捉的真相：女人真正想要的，就在你身上...........41记住……做一个男人最好...................................................421.限制性的想法与改变之道...............................................44恐惧失败而不采取行动.......................................................44在“接近”时的“失败恐惧”...........................................45恐惧未知...............................................................................47丰盈与稀缺...........................................................................48被“拒绝”所困...................................................................52与其他男人竞争...................................................................52无限正义...............................................................................53担忧“接吻测验”...............................................................54性的义务...............................................................................542.准备改变：积极心态带来提升.......................................55为关键时刻做大量准备.......................................................55你能行...................................................................................55默认行为VS开始改变......................................................57执行速度...............................................................................58更新模式...............................................................................59改进你的交流模式...............................................................603担忧...............................................................................……62期待及时的喜悦...................................................................64自然变化及成功模式...........................................................66避免平庸..............