常言说“男人不坏，女人不爱”，可在现实生活中，真的是这样吗？一句流传甚广的老话让人生出无数的争论和暇想。以个人观点而言，所谓的“坏男人”只是少女情怀梦中的“黑马王子”，就像《飘》中的男主人公白瑞德那样，当年这部电影的男主角那坏坏的眼神不知迷倒了多少女生。可是平淡的生活，让人感受最真实、体贴和关怀的，还属好男人。正如文中所提，温暖就是他有心记下你不经意的一句话，于是，巧克力般的甜蜜醇醇萦绕于心。StephanieNiceGuysVSBadGuys男人不坏，女人不爱？ByJoyceDurham陈小雨译Womenlovebadboys.1)Niceguysfinishlast.Welcometothemostdamagingand2)far-flungmythevertohitthedatingworld.I’msureyou’vehearditinitsmanyforms;ifyouwantagirltofallforyou,don’tletonthatyoulikeher,treatherbadly,bealoof.Neverworktoohardorcalltoosoon.Keepherwaiting.Withonly700wordsatmydisposal,Idon’tknowifIcanfullyemphasizehowmisguidedthisnotionis,but,withthehelpofsomechocolate,I’mgoingtotry.First,let’slookatthe3)genesisofthismyth.Who4)perpetratedsuchasimplisticand5)apocryphalsetofideas?Wasthereoneguy—we’llcallhimGuyZero—whometsomehorriblywoundedfemalesoul,treatedherpoorlyandfoundthatshewaspowerlesstoresisthim?Perhapsheplayed6)racquetballwithaguy(Idon’tknowwhyI’msettingthisinthe80’s)whosatnexttoanotherguyatworkwhotoldhiscousinwhospreaditthroughoutsome[1]fraternityinOhio.Howdidthishappen?Thisisanairbornedating[2]Ebola.Asathoughtvirus,it’s7)replicatingand8)mutatingandisdeadlytotheentirespecies.Thatmayhavebeen9)melodramatic.Still,Ihadtomakeapoint.BasedonmyownexperiencesandthecountlesshoursI’veloggedtalkingtogirlfriends,Icantellyouplainly:there’snothingsexierthannice.Yeah,Isaidit.Niceworks.Letmegiveyouanexample.Ifawomanmentionssheusedtolovechocolateandyoubringheroneonyourfirstdate,that’sthestoryshe’sgoingtotellherfriendsaboutyou.Thatchocolateiswhyshe’sgoingtogooutwithyouagain.Withthatlittle10)waxysnackfood,youarebuyingyourselfapassportofgoodwill.Whenyouarrivelateforadateorshowuptoherparentsfordinnerwithoutbringingwineshe’llthinktoherself,“Yeah,buthebroughtmechocolate.He’saNICEguy.”Gentlemen,I’mlettingyou11)behindthecurtainhere.I’myour[3]WillyWonkatotheChocolateFactorythatisawoman’sheart.Thisishowitis.Everydooryouopen,everytimeyoutellheryoulikehershoes,everytimeyoupickherupontime,everytimeyougetheraseconddrinkbeforeshe’sfinishedwithherfirst,she’sfallinginlovewithyou.Whyisthismythsopervasive?Whyhasitbeenallowedtothrive?Howcanitpossiblyspanallagesandsocialclassesandraces?IthinkIknowwhy.Here’sa12)scenariothatisprobablyhappeningallovertheworldrightnowasyoureadthis.Amanmeetsawoman,hetreatsherwell,shegoesoutwithhimafewbutdecidesshe’sjustnotinterested.Why?Maybeshe’snotphysicallyattractedtohim,whichisthemostlikelyreason.Maybeshedoesn’tlikethewayhe13)snappedatthewaiter.Maybeshesenseshe’snotreadyforacommitmentortooreadyforone.Thepossiblereasonsareendless.Themanwillfeelrejected,andrightfullyso.Hewillneverreallyknowwhyhewasdumped,buthewillcarrythelingeringhumiliationofhavingreallytriedhisbest.He’llfeelthewayguyscan’tstandtofeel,vulnerable,used,14)emasculated,15)cuckolded,stupid.Hisonlyreliefisthebelief,“Iwastoonice.Womenonlylike16)jerks.”No.Shewaitedforthenice.Sheleftfortherealreason,becauseshewasn’tinterestedinyou.Iknowithurts,I’vebeenleft,too,butcreatingsomefantasticaltheoryisn’tgoingtomakeitbetterintheend.Ihaveneverknownawomantodropamanbecausehewas“toonice.”Iguaranteeyou,dosomethingnicetonight,not...